I just got an update from my friend I mentioned in yesterday's post. She told me that she made a phone call last night to the married man telling him she has to cut him out of her life. I am so proud of her that she made this call and is removing herself from this situation. My fear is that he will not listen to her request and continue to contact her. Hopefully she will have the strength to stand her ground.
She says it was the hardest call she has ever made in her life and that she is in so much emotional pain at the moment. I am not sure what this guy said to her to get her so head-over-heels crazy for him (they only met a week ago). I know that they hung out for several hours last weekend and may have had a few phone/text conversations, but that is it. So why is she being so dramatic about this situation and feeling as if her world is ending? I really don't know. I am sure a psychologist would just love to dissect this case and give a report on the human emotion of infatuation.
Fascinating as it maybe, I don't quite understand either side and this "connection" they felt they made in the weeks time. I mean, doesn't anyone practice restraint anymore let alone being faithful to your spouse! I am frustrated beyond all frustration about this situation. I am very proud of my friend that she put this "friendship" on the chopping block, but what motivations really lie underneath all of this hurt and possible infidelity? They are both needing to feel wanted, accepted and validated as human beings. But isn't there another way rather than jumping into bed with each other and commiting adultery? She is feeling miffed by a friend who she thought was possibly more than a friend and he is not having his needs met by his wife in their marriage. They both so do some true soul searching and maybe even some counseling in order to avoid similar situations in the future.
Man, I wish I could go back to school and become a relationship counselor! I would just be fearful that I wouldn't ever have the right advice to give!
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I think it'd be exhausting working on other people's relationships all the time. You'd get home, over analyze your own relationships, and then be too tired to fight. I'm glad your friend said no and walked away but I, too, am curious about the connection after a week. Odd!
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